【吕秀金 POP Workshop】我們終於學會好好説話

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我是May，今年四十三歲，和先生一起經營一家麵食店。每天早上六點開門，晚上十點收攤，一整天幾乎沒有什麼空檔。常客常説我們夫妻很厲害，居然能一起撐起生意那麼多年，也把孩子照顧得不錯。他們看見的是熱火朝天的廚房，是絡繹不絶的熟客，卻沒看到我們在油菸之後，變得多麼容易崩潰，內心正在一點點的被侵蝕。

我們的生活，不知不覺隻剩下吵架和責備

其實我和我先生早就不是原來那麼和睦相處了。從什麼時候開始我不太確定，但我們每天除了點貨、備料、出單，幾乎隻剩下吵架。吵出餐慢了，吵買菜太貴了，吵女兒的成績不夠好，甚至有時一句沒講好就直接對罵。最糟的是，我們連在客人和孩子麵前都顧不得形象。彼此之間的那種不耐煩，已經成了日常的口氣，已經嚴重到不能夠用”歡喜冤家“來形容了。

當女兒選擇沉默，我才真正地意識到這樣下去不對

我們有一個十二歲的女兒，原本很黏我們，但現在越來越沉默。有一次，我和他又在爲進貨的問題爭執，吵得很兇，女兒一句話也沒説，隻是默默把作業本收起來，説她要回房間安靜一下。她的背影讓我愣住了，我突然意識到，我們不僅僅是在傷害彼此，也正在不知不覺中，影響她的心。

我從沒想過自己會變成那種常常吼老公、孩子不敢靠近的媽媽。過去我總以爲努力經營家庭就是愛，咬牙堅持就是責任。可漸漸地，我髮現自己連情緒都失去了界限，每天不是在累，就是在煩，偶爾空下來反而不知該怎麼呼吸。

那段時間，有位熟客看着我説：“看你們臉色都不太好是不是吵架吵得很厲害了，最近是不是壓力很大？我朋友邀請我去過一個叫 Pop Workshop 的地方，説對關繫蠻有幫助。”我隻是點點頭沒説什麼，心裡卻把這個名字記了下來。後來我悄悄上網查了資料，過沒幾天，我一個人報名了。

我沒有告訴先生，也沒有特別的期待，隻是想嚐試這麼做能不能挽回以往所擁有的。我想停一下，哪怕隻是半天，給自己一點喘息。

原來吵架不是解方，好好說話才是開始

Workshop上完幾次後，我髮現自己好像慢慢鬆了一點。不是變快樂，而是沒那麼容易爆炸。以前我一生氣就反擊，脾氣非常硬，現在我開始會先想：“我到底在氣什麼？”那種改變不是別人看得出來的，而是我開始能聽見自己説話。

我也試着邀請先生一起去。我跟他説：“你可以不用分享，也不用改變什麼，我隻是希望我們能換個方式，好好講講話。”他一開始不太想去，但後來在我的軟磨硬泡下還是答應陪我試試看。

我們一起上了幾堂課。那是很多年來，我們第一次坐在彼此身邊，不是爲了算帳或吵事情，而是一起聽別人説生活，也一起照一照我們的樣子。

慢慢地，我們學會了把事情講清楚，而不是把情緒丟出去。我們會在收工後坐下來，説今天哪裡合作得不錯，也會提醒彼此不要用指責的語氣。以前是“你怎麼又這樣”，現在變成“這個我有點在意，我們下次可以怎樣配合”。我們不再搶着贏，而是開始討論怎麼解決。

女兒也察覺到我們的變化。有一天晚上吃飯，她突然説：“你們最近比較像朋友了。”她説的時候語氣很輕，但我聽了鼻子一酸。我知道，她一直都在等我們好起來，隻是以前她也不知道怎麼開口。

現在我們還是一樣忙，照樣要出餐、排班、送貨、算賬。但家裡安靜了許多，也溫暖了許多。我開始願意説：“今天我很累，晚上你幫我多一點。”我老公也會説：“我剛剛不該那樣講，我們再説一次好不好？”這些小小的變化，不是什麼技巧，是我們終於願意坐下來，聽彼此講人話，而不是吵着贏輸。

Pop Institute 對我們來説不是什麼奇跡，它也沒有替我們解決問題。但它讓我們有了一個機會，一個重新看見彼此的空間。我們開始明白，不是日子太難，而是我們太久沒好好説話了。

如果你也像我一樣，在家庭、工作和關繫之間快被壓垮，請相信，關繫是可以修的。隻要你願意停下來，也許你不會馬上幸福，但你會慢慢找回自己，然後找回彼此。

 

一個科技男的自白：我為什麼走進呂秀金的工作坊？

一個科技男的自白：我為什麼走進呂秀金的工作坊？

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【我是誰？爲什麼會去？】

哈嘍大家都叫我阿偉，30歲，從事科技行業。每天早上擠公交，回家繼續用電腦上班，跟伴侶的對話常常隻剩下“吃什麼？”、“你很累吧？”

生活不差，但也説不上有什麼方向。最常跟自己講的一句話是：“我還撐得住，反正也沒啥。”

直到有一天，一個認識十多年的老朋友跟我説：

“你以爲你在忍，其實你在耗。”

他説他最近參加了一個叫 Pop Workshop 的東西，説不上是“神奇”，但是“值得”。他沒多講內容，也沒説是療愈、轉化、訓練營之類的，隻是説：

“你可以去看看，反正你什麼都試過了，就差這一件。”

我猶豫了一個月，最後還是決定報名了。
坦白講，我一開始真的不相信會有什麼改變。更多是因爲，我也有點想知道：“我是不是早就放棄了讓自己更好這件事？”

【第一天：我以爲自己隻是來看看就走】

我到場的時候，心態很防備。

我是典型的邏輯腦，對任何講“改變人生”、“重新看自己”的課程都抱持距離感。更何況，這個活動還常被網民質疑是“洗腦”、“情緒操控”、“邪教”，當下的我並不帶什麼好感。

我沒哭、沒笑，也沒髮問，隻是習慣性地坐着聽別人分享。
聽了好幾個之後，我心裡開始浮出一個聲音：“這些人都在講他們的真實故事，那我自己的呢？”

那一刻我意識到，我對自己的“故事”，其實是空白的。
不是我沒經曆，而是我從來沒停下來去整理、去聽自己講出來。

【過程裡髮生了什麼？我不能説，但我能説我變了】

你要問我“裡麵上了什麼”、“講了哪些理論”、“有沒有什麼技巧”——對不起，我不能也不會説。

不是因爲它有多神秘，而是因爲這整個過程真正重要的，不是“課程內容”，而是你自己在那裡麵對了什麼、承認了什麼、放下了什麼。

説白了，它不是來教你什麼“正確的人生”，也沒有人在告訴你“你該怎麼活”。

它隻是讓你重新看回自己——那個你習慣忽略的自己。

我不能説過程輕鬆。對我而言，那幾天不是一場“啟髮”，而是一場“脫殼”。
那種重新連接自己的過程，沒有戲劇化的橋段，隻有很多很安靜、但很深的撞擊。

【外界説它是邪教？也許體驗過了才知道是什麼？】

我上完之後看到網絡上説的那些評論：“哭就等於被洗腦”、“太感性不理性”、“像邪教”、“被操控情緒”——我隻想説：

你有來過嗎？你見過那些眼神嗎？

不是每個人都會哭，不是每個人都會分享。但每個人都在麵對自己。
你説情緒多就是邪教，那你是不是把自己壓抑太久了，連“感動”都覺得不正常？

真正的控製，是你連自己都不敢聽。
而我在那邊學到的，是**“我有權利選擇自己相信的東西。”**

我沒有被改造，我隻是開始比較誠實。

【回來後，我開始做這些“微小”的事】
我開始拒絶一些不必要的應酬，説“我想休息”。

我開始冩字記錄，不是爲了po文，是爲了傾聽自己，也爲了和另一半分享自己。

我主動跟父親聊了小時候他對我説過的一句話，我們從沒談過，但我終於願意説：“那句話影響我很深。”

這不是大轉變，也不是什麼“勵誌大逆轉”。
這隻是——我終於在自己的生活裡，做出一點點由我決定的選擇。

那種感覺很安靜，卻很有力。

【以我個人來説會推薦嗎？】

我推薦——如果你是自己願意走進去的人。
我不會拉人報名，不會宣傳它能解決你的問題, 更不會去批判它到底是不是pop workshop 邪教。

但如果你也曾經像我一樣，對人生覺得“還可以，但好像卡住了”；
如果你內心有很多“但又不敢講”，有很多“想要，卻不敢要”；
那我真心覺得，你值得給自己一個機會。

不是因爲這個活動能改變你，而是——
你終於願意讓“改變”這件事，重新回到你手上。

【最後的話：請別放棄你自己】

我不會説 Pop Workshop 是每個人的必經之路。
但我會説：它是一麵鏡子，你願不願意照？是你自己決定的。

成長從來不是一夜之間，而是你每一次選擇，不再假裝沒感覺、不再回避真實、不再麻木自己。

我們花了太久時間學習怎麼成爲“別人期待的樣子”，
也許現在，是時候，問問自己——
我真正想成爲什麼樣子？

Discover Parktown Residence | The Future of Urban Living in Tampines

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Located in the heart of Tampines, Parktown Residence Condo is set to redefine urban living in Singapore. Jointly developed by UOL Group Limited, Singapore Land Group (SingLand), and CapitaLand Development, this ambitious project is Singapore’s largest fully integrated development, combining luxury homes, retail spaces, and lifestyle amenities into a seamless living experience.

Parktown Residence stands as a beacon of the future—one where connectivity, convenience, and community living are perfectly balanced. This groundbreaking development offers 1,193 residential units, ranging from modern two-bedroom apartments to spacious four-bedroom family homes.

 

The Future of Urban Living

Parktown Residence is designed with a vision to meet the evolving needs of urban dwellers. The development brings together a live-work-play lifestyle within a single complex, offering residents everything they need at their doorstep.

Imagine this: A quick morning workout at the fully equipped gym, a stroll through lush green spaces, and breakfast at a trendy café—all without leaving the property. Residents will also have access to shopping, dining, and wellness facilities just an elevator ride away.

Parktown Residence isn’t just a home—it’s a lifestyle.

 

Why Parktown Residence Stands Out

Parktown Residence pricing is more than just a good price; it’s a self-contained community that offers unmatched convenience and connectivity.

Key Features:

  • Integrated Living: Residential units, retail outlets, and lifestyle facilities in one development
  • Smart Home Technology: State-of-the-art smart home features for added convenience
  • Green Spaces: Landscaped gardens, rooftop terraces, and eco-friendly design elements
  • Extensive Amenities: Swimming pools, fitness centers, community spaces, and more
  • Proximity to Top Schools: Close to St. Hilda’s Primary School, Temasek Polytechnic, and UWCSEA

 

Exceptional Location and Connectivity

One of Parktown Residence’s biggest draws is its strategic location in Tampines, one of Singapore’s most well-connected and vibrant towns.

Residents will enjoy easy access to Tampines MRT Interchange, which connects the Downtown Line and East-West Line, ensuring seamless travel across the island. For those who drive, major expressways such as the PIE, TPE, and KPE are just minutes away.

Changi Airport and Jewel Changi Airport are also a short drive away, making it ideal for frequent travelers and shopping enthusiasts.

 

Designed for Families and Professionals

Parktown Residence is the perfect choice for families, with its close proximity to reputable schools and family-friendly amenities. Young professionals will also appreciate the co-working spaces, nearby business hubs, and vibrant lifestyle options.

The development’s focus on community and wellness ensures there’s something for everyone. Families can bond at the children’s playgrounds, professionals can unwind at the rooftop gardens, and fitness enthusiasts can take advantage of the various sports facilities.

 

A Home for the Future

Sustainability is at the core of Parktown Residence’s design. The development incorporates eco-friendly features such as energy-efficient appliances, rainwater harvesting systems, and ample green spaces to reduce its environmental footprint.

In an era where work-life balance is increasingly important, Parktown Residence offers a living environment that promotes well-being, convenience, and relaxation.

 

A Strong Investment Opportunity

With units starting at $1.07 million, Parktown Residence presents an attractive opportunity for first-time buyers and seasoned investors alike. Its prime location, integrated concept, and family-friendly features make it one of the most exciting launches in Singapore’s real estate market.

The demand for integrated developments has been growing steadily, and Parktown Residence is perfectly positioned to meet this rising trend. Experts predict that properties in Tampines will continue to appreciate in value due to the town’s growing infrastructure and reputation as a regional hub.

 

Sales Launch on February 22, 2025

The wait is almost over. Prospective buyers can look forward to the official sales launch on February 22, 2025. Given the overwhelming response during the preview, units are expected to sell quickly.

Whether you’re a homeowner seeking a dream home or an investor eyeing a high-potential property, Parktown Residence is a development not to be missed.

About UOL, SingLand & CapitaLand Development
With a proven track record of creating iconic residential and commercial projects, UOL, SingLand, and CapitaLand Development are among Singapore’s most trusted developers. Their collaboration on Parktown Residence reflects a shared commitment to quality, innovation, and sustainability.

 

Housing prices are not projected to rise indefinitely Desmond L

Housing prices are not projected to rise indefinitely: Desmond L

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Singapore – According to National Development Minister Desmond Lee, there are indications of a slowdown in both the public and private housing markets like Grand Dunman; therefore rising home prices in Singapore are not predicted to continue indefinitely.

In an interview with The Straits Times and the Chinese daily Lianhe Zaobao on December 28, Mr. Lee noted that he expected mortgage rates to stay high, which would affect buyers and homeowners.

“We anticipate that interest rates will stay high for an extended period of time, and the current rates range from 3.7% to 4.4%, so that will have an effect,” he stated.

The COVID-19 epidemic increased demand for housing, as seen by an 80% increase in first-time Housing Board Build-To-Order (BTO) flat applicants between 2020 and 2022 as compared to 2017 and 2019.

Longer wait times for BTO apartments were caused by the pandemic’s effects on labor, supplies, and building, which pushed some buyers to the resale market and raised prices, according to Mr. Lee.

Demand was bolstered by the demographic shift towards smaller households, however, some applicants applied for a flat earlier than planned due to the delays and uncertainty associated with BTO flats.

In 2023, the Government Land Sales program verified 15 sites, resulting in the release of 9,250 units of private housing. This marked another increase in the land supply for housing. According to Mr. Lee, this is the highest in ten years.

In the first half of 2024, an additional 5,450 units spread across 10 locations are scheduled for release. Since the first half of 2021, this will be the ninth consecutive half-yearly increase in supply.

2023 saw the completion of over 42,000 public and private dwellings, consisting of about 20,400 private units and 21,400 HDB apartments near the Grand Dunman Showflat. He said that since 2017, this was the largest yearly supply of finished homes in both markets.

In both markets, there were indications of deceleration even as real estate prices kept rising. According to official flash estimates, private property prices increased 6.7% in 2023 compared to 8.6% in 2022, while HDB resale prices increased 4.8% in 2023, less than the 10.4% increase in 2022.

Mr. Lee was questioned about whether the government would boost subsidies for apartments in desirable locations if the cost of resale increased. In addition to the current BTO subsidies, apartments under the prime location public housing (PLH) model receive additional funding.

The additional subsidies for two PLH projects were increased in the BTO launch in December 2023 in response to growing resale market pricing. For these apartments, the subsidy clawback was increased to 8% from 6% for previous PLH projects.

In response, Mr. Lee stated that various steps are being taken to control supply and demand in order to stabilize the real estate market.

Mr. Lee responded that the government’s philosophy is to “consume the resources we need to benefit our generation but always keep thinking about future generations, knowing that this will not benefit us directly” in response to a question about how the authorities are garnering support from Singaporeans for the significant undertaking despite it being far in the future.

In light of the possibility that some or many of us won’t live to see its protection or advantages, he remarked, certain decisions must be made.

Suggested Article: Climate Alpha, located in Singapore, studies how climate change may affect the value of real estate

Climate Alpha, located in Singapore, studies how climate change may affect the value of real estate

Climate Alpha, located in Singapore, studies how climate change may affect the value of real estate

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Climate Alpha was founded by a globalization and geography specialist and is an artificial intelligence platform that aids property owners and investors in assessing the effects of climate change on their holdings. Today, the Singaporean business revealed on Treasure Tampines it had secured $5 million in initial investment of Treasure at Tampines Price List, with the help of Jungle Ventures’ innovative First Cheque@Jungle program for seasoned entrepreneurs.

American house builder Lennar Corporation is one of Climate Alpha’s clients who has again announced a Treasure at Tampines E Brochure. Other clients include Oaktree Capital and BentallGreenOak, both of which are large investment firms.

To better inform property owners on how climate change may affect their investment, the platform makes use of Geographic Information System (GIS) data and economic modeling. It also leverages public and private data sources and proprietary machine learning algorithms to provide estimates of climate change’s financial effect.

Parag Khanna published “Move: Where People are Going for a Better Future,” a book on how climate change, geopolitics, and tech are affecting where people live, before launching Climate Alpha.

While writing the book, Khanna and his brother helped their parents choose climate-resilient retirement homes. Parag urged FutureMap research director Kailash Prasad to link climate characteristics to property value estimates. Climate Oases, a FutureMap practice area, became Climate Alpha. The Singaporean government gave Climate Alpha a data science grant during the outbreak. It also collaborated with Lennar and Capitaland.

Real estate has gone up and to the right for decades, but that’s changing owing to climate change, increasing insurance, demographic outflows, high-interest rates, changed investment patterns, etc., Khanna added. “We model these complex interactions to give more confidence in where—and where not—to invest.”

Climate Alpha provides physical climate risk statistics, estimates, and assessments for every region using industry-standard climate models, and demographic, and economic data. It may also incorporate electricity grid dependability and economic momentum, which can reduce risk in the US and Canada (with more added). Climate Alpha helps investors make judgments by comparing its predicted economic and asset growth to past patterns.

Suggested Article: Singaporean oil trader OK Lim’s fancy bungalow sold for less than the asking price

Singaporean oil trader OK Lim's fancy bungalow sold for less than the asking price

Singaporean oil trader OK Lim’s fancy bungalow sold for less than the asking price

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A high-end home like Riverfront Residence in Singapore, owned by the head of the now-defunct oil company Hin Leong Trading Pte. did not sell at auction for the price that was expected on Riverfront Residences Price. This is another sign that demand for expensive homes like Riverfront Residences Showflat is decreasing.

People thought the “good class bungalow” was the best home in the city. It sold for just under S$26.5 million ($19.8 million), which is 12% less than the S$30 million target price.

Property sales and renting records show that deals on high-end homes in Singapore have slowed down in recent months. This could be the worst year for sales of high-end bungalows in ten years. In the third quarter, prices of landed houses fell 3.6%.

The houses that Lim Oon Kuin owns are among the things that his family has that are frozen by a court order. Lim is currently in court on charges of cheating and forgery because his oil company owes banks about $3.5 billion.

In September, the private two-story house was put up for auction to the public. The tender says that the sale can only happen if Singapore’s high court or Hin Leong’s liquidators agree to it.

According to a statement from Mary Sai, the executive head of Knight Frank, they looked for very wealthy clients to help them sell the house that sits on about 15,000 square feet of land. Most Singaporeans can’t get GCBs because they are too expensive for most people and are valued in part because they are so rare.

This is Lim’s second GCB that has been sold in Bukit Timah, which is the biggest and best neighborhood in the city-state. The buyers in neither sale were made public. Visit the Portico site daily.

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